I argue a lot. How I feel about the people I'm arguing with often goes something like this:
However, there's one particular person that ends up at the X, roughly.
Know why? Because he is almost always calm and always respectful. He seems to genuinely want to discuss more than debate, to understand more than to win. The more I talk to him, the more I realize we disagree on (seemingly) everything. Yet I can't help but like him because of his style.
It's just amazing to me how style can make more of a difference than substance. Maybe it's just me, but I don't think so. Even being aware of the reasons I feel open to respectful people, I still....just feel open.